Give Condolences with Sympathy Messages

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With Sympathy MessagesGiving condolences with sympathy messages is one of the best gifts that you can give the family of someone who has recently passed away. Condolences are not just a message; they are a symbol to show that you really care for the deceased and his or her family. The death of a loved one is a time of sorrow and grief for the family and being able to show them that you sympathize and care is a symbol of true love and friendship.

Writing a sympathy card for the family of the deceased might seem like a daunting task. You may find it hard to relate to the family or to put your thoughts into words. Your own emotions and grief over the loss of the person will also make writing condolences difficult. If you are finding it hard to give condolences with sympathy messages this article will help. Below are several steps you can follow to write a heartfelt sympathy message.

Giving condolences with sympathy messages typically begins with a note of sadness upon hearing the news of the person’s passing. Describe what you felt or how you were shocked to learn about the passing of your friend or family member. You can begin sharing your sadness with sympathy messages with a phrase like “I was shocked and deeply saddened when I heard about the sudden passing of our good friend John.”

Following that, you would want to write something to console the family and talk a little about your experience with the deceased. Write down simple things like “John was loved by all and will be deeply missed” or “Please accept my sincere sympathy for your loss”. You might then want to continue the message with a short experience with the deceased. Put in writing about a time when he or she inspired you or when you shared a special moment. This is a nice way to show how much the deceased meant to you.

You may also want to offer a helping hand to the family of the deceased. The deceased might be an important family member, like a spouse. The loss might impact the family, both emotionally and financially. In your card, say that you will be there for the family and will help however you can. Offer help with specific tasks such as buying them groceries, looking after their children, helping clean their house, and so on.

Conclude your card with a phrase such as “Our prayers are with you in this time of need”, “May your heart and soul find comfort in the Lord” or “____ will live on in our hearts forever”.

Giving condolences with sympathy messages is better than a bouquet of flowers or an expensive gift. Whether or not you give the family a gift, make sure to take the time to pen down a thoughtful sympathy card. Even if you cannot make it to the funeral procession, post the card over to the family. Let the family of the deceased know that although you are not with them in person, your best wishes are with them. As mentioned earlier, showing that you care is a symbol of love and true friendship.

Examples of Sympathy Messages

“I am so sorry for your sudden loss of your son. He was an intelligent and loving person and will be truly missed by my family and myself. If you need anything, remember that I am here for you.”

“Please accept my heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your mother. She was loved by everyone who knew her and will be deeply missed.”

“I am sorry to hear about the loss of your sister Jane. I will never forget the wonderful times I shared with her. Her memory will live on in my heart forever.”

“I am deeply saddened by the news of the death of your father. May your heart and soul find comfort in the Lord during this difficult time.”

“Please accept my condolences on the loss of your brother. My thoughts are with your family during this trying moment. God bless you and your family.”


Hopefully the example above have helped show you how to properly give condolences with sympathy messages. For more help, read our other articles on writing sympathy messages and example sympathy messages.


| Your Tribute Founder

Jason Ropchan is the Founder and CEO of Your Tribute, an online resource for Funeral and Grief information and products. He has more than 15 years experience in the funeral industry developing and marketing funeral technology. He has worked with thousands of funeral homes worldwide to help them provide online memo...