When someone you know passes away, their family will need all the love and support they can get. Learning how to write the best messages for sympathy cards is important. To show that you truly care for the family and respect the deceased, there is no better way than attending their funeral and by giving them a sympathy card. A card is a memento to show that you loved the deceased and you really care for his or her family. Due to its significance and importance to the family, writing a proper condolence card can be a difficult task.
There are a few steps that will help you in writing messages for sympathy cards. First of all, you will want to express your sadness and grief upon hearing the news of your friend or family members passing. The death of someone can truly be shocking, especially if the death was unexpected or by accident. Write down a simple message like “We were truly saddened to hear about the news of John’s passing” or “I was shocked and deeply saddened to hear about Jane’s untimely passing”.
After that you would want to console the family and talk about your relationship with the deceased. Sharing a fond memory or two about the deceased will help cheer up the family. For example, “John was always there when I needed him, I remember when we were young and I broke my leg and he took me to the hospital and helped look after me. He was a very caring person and I knew I could always count on him.” You could also write about something that he or she once told you or did for you that impacted your life positively. Writing about this will show the family that their loved one positively impacted you life and meant a lot to you.
If you want, it can be nice to offer your assistance to the family of the deceased. It is more meaningful to offer assistance with a specific task than saying “call me if you need anything”. Most people won’t call and ask for help, but if you offer to do a task like picking up groceries, looking after a pet, etc they are more likely to accept your help. Always remember that a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Finally, concluding messages for sympathy cards with a final note of sympathy is recommended. Write down something along the lines of ‘May God be with you in this time of grief’ of ‘God bless you and your family’. Writing a card for a funeral of a good friend or family member is important, because a simple note of sympathy and care is a true sign of love and friendship.
Examples of Messages for Sympathy Cards
”I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. I know that nothing can take away the pain that you are feeling right now, but I just want you to know that your mother was an inspiration to me and I will remember her forever.”
”Your brother’s departure was truly unexpected and I am deeply grieved. Please accept my deepest condolences for your significant loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. God bless you and may your brother rest in peace.”
“I cannot comprehend just how devastated you must be feeling over the loss of your spouse. My heart goes out to you, in this difficult time.”
“Please accept my heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your father. He was a strong and passionate person and his memory will live on in our hearts for as long as we live.”
“I am saddened to hear of your mother’s passing. She was loved and respected by everyone who met her. I hope you can find peace in the wonderful life she has lived. May she rest in peace. God bless you and your entire family.”
Hopefully the example messages for sympathy cards above have helped show you how to write your own sympathy message. For more help, read our other articles on writing sympathy messages and example sympathy messages.
Updated: August 15, 2012