A funeral message should express the giver’s deepest emotions and how much he or she cares about the deceased person’s family. The examples below will help you take the emotions you are feeling and turn them into thoughtful words.
The fact that many of us have never written a sympathy message before, combined with the grief we are facing, makes the process difficult. Funeral messages are important to the family and are often kept to read over and over again whenever they are feeling sad. The funeral message to the family does not need to encompass all of your thoughts and feelings. A short message that says how much the deceased meant to you and that the family is in your thoughts is all that is required.
Comforting sympathy messages are usually given along with a gift of food, a memorial donation or flowers. The family of the deceased person does not usually need the material things that their friends bring because what matters to them most is the love of their family and friends. To see and feel that there are friends and family members who share their grief and who feel the same way they do helps with the healing process. The following examples will help you get started writing a funeral message to someone you care about.
Funeral Message Examples
1. With love to you and your family. My thoughts are with you in your time of need.
2. Please know our loving thoughts embrace you. We are thinking of you in these difficult times.
3. Our deepest sympathies during your time of loss. Please know that we are here for you for whatever you need.
4. With my deepest sympathy. The memory of _____ will go on forever in our hearts forever.
5. Our deepest sympathy to you and your family at this difficult time.
6. I want you to know that we are thinking of you and your family at this difficult time. If we can help in any way please let us know; we would love to be of assistance.
7. With heartfelt condolences on your loss. We know these times are tough today, but know that you have the love of a lot of friends that are here to support you.
8. We are so sad to hear about the passing of _____. His or her memory will live on in our hearts forever.
9. Our sincere sympathies to your entire family. You are in our thoughts and prayers. May God bless you.
10. It was with deep sadness that we read of the passing of _____. He or she was a wonderful person and will be missed dearly. Please accept our deepest condolences.
The best funeral message is one that shares a story about the deceased person and what difference he or she made to your life. Adding a memory will make the sympathy message more personal and be appreciated by the family. Remember that a funeral message is typically attached to funeral flowers or sent in a card. It is meant to express your condolences and let the family know that you are thinking about them. If you want to write more you should consider including a separate condolence letter in the funeral card.
The funeral message examples above are only a few options available to you. We recommend that you use these as a starting point to writing your own personalized message. For more help, read our other articles on writing sympathy messages.
Updated: October 12, 2012