Writing a deepest sympathy message is one of the hardest things that you will ever have to do. It can be difficult to think of the best ways to phrase your words so that the person that is receiving the letter will know that you are there for them in their time of need.
When writing one of these messages the structure of how the message is written is just as important as the messages that you are attempting to convey. You should never write a long drawn out letter that puts the receiving party in tears. You must remember that the person who you are writing the messages to is going to use the messages that you are giving them to help them get through their difficult time.
Your messages should be sweet, sincere and to the point. It does not make sense to keep repeating how sorry you are for the individuals lost. They can pretty much assume that since you are taking the time out to write them a letter that you are sorry for what they are going through.
In the deepest sympathy message that you compose you may want to include inspirational quotes that will lift the receiver’s spirits. You will want to write that you are sorry that the individual receiving the message is going through heartache from their loss. Do not overuse the word “sorry” in your message. Saying the word sorry once or twice is more than enough to get your point across.
You should never write anything that the family might find offensive in the letter that you are composing. Even if you did not know the person that passed away very well, it is important that you are sympathetic for the individuals lost. Also, regardless of what the circumstances were that caused the loss, you should try to steer clear of mentioning them in the message.
For example, if the person that lost their life was involved in risky lifestyle choices, you do not want to say anything about the choices that the individual made. The people that lost the other person will not want to hear that their loved one could have potentially avoided their passing.
Leaving harsh sounding words is not going to help the individual who lost their dear friend or family member cope. There are a lot softer sounding words and phrases that you can write in a sympathetic letter to get your point across that you are truly sorry for the individuals lost.
One example of a sympathy message would be:
“Dear _____, I am so sorry for your sudden loss. Your loved one will be truly missed by my family and myself. If you need anything, remember that I am here for you.”
Even though this message is not long, it lets your friend know that you are willing to do everything in your power to help them through their trying time.
A longer message could sound something like this:
“Dear _____, I understand that this is a difficult time for you. I know how much your (husband or wife) meant to you. (He or She) was a terrific person that touched the lives of many people. Your love for (him or her) and their love for you is something that held you together until the very end. My thoughts are with you and your family. Please call me or stop by anytime if you need someone to talk to.”
A deepest sympathy message can mean a world of difference to the person that receives it. Everyone needs someone there who understands him or her and is willing to help them through their difficult time.
Updated: March 21, 2012