Learning how to write a eulogy for a friend is an important first step before you write a eulogy to your companion. Writing and delivering a eulogy is an honor and you want to be sure that your speech properly commemorate the life of your friend.
Writing and giving a eulogy is one of the most difficult things that you will have to do for someone, but it can be the most fulfilling as well. A eulogy is one of the best ways to pay tribute to, and commemorate the life of your friend. The family and friends in attendance at the funeral will appreciate hearing fond memories and positive qualities of your friend who passed away.
Writing a eulogy does not need to be a scary and difficult task. Remember that you are celebrating the life of your friend and as long as your words come from the heart everyone at the funeral will appreciate them. If you need help learning how to write a eulogy for a friend, then the following tips should provide you with everything you need to write a heartwarming speech.
How To Write A Eulogy For A Friend
Before you begin to write a eulogy you should interview some of your friend’s family members and other friends. Ask about their education and career, as well as their hobbies, interests and favorite activities. You may also want to get information from the family about their childhood, including where he or she lived, when they were born, and so on. Friends and family who are not writing a eulogy of their own may have a special memory that they would like included in your eulogy. Collect as much information as possible even if at the time you may think it is unnecessary.
After you have collected information from others, it is time to recall your own memories with your friend. Recalling memories will be an emotional task and you may need to work on this over a few days. Think about where/when you and your friend me. Next, think about your favorite memories that you shared with the person; these can be light hearted humorous moments, or series situations where you learned an important lesson. What are the attributes that you will miss the most about the person? What wisdom did they share with you and what did you share with them?
Now that you have collected information from others and have recalled your own memories it is time to organize the data. It can be helpful to divide the eulogy into sections, which will help you organize the information and write the eulogy. We recommend that you organize the eulogy into the following sections: introduction, personal memories, experiences of others with your friend (optional), your friend’s favorite things, how your friend influenced your life, how your friend influenced others (optional), how much you will miss your friend, conclusion.
Now that you have all of the information you want included in the eulogy it is time to write your speech. Start by writing a draft, which you will rewrite multiple times. The first draft will include all of the information you collected and be longer than the finished speech. After you have written the draft, go through it and remove any items that you don’t think are relevant. Next, write a second draft and when you are finished, asked a friend or family member to read it. They may have some helpful suggestions for you to improve the eulogy. Next, using their advice write a third and final draft. Read it over the next few days and make any minor adjustments that are required. You will now have a final copy of the eulogy ready to deliver at the funeral. We recommend printing the eulogy in a large font, which will help when rehearsing the speech and delivering it at the funeral.
It is helpful to read the eulogy multiple times before you give the speech. Your eulogy is a heartfelt tribute to your friend and reading the eulogy will be an emotional experience for you and those listening to it. By reading it multiple times in advance you will be more comfortable with the eulogy and less likely to get overly emotional when giving the speech. Furthermore, you do not need to worry about memorizing the speech word-for-word. You will have a copy of the speech with you at the funeral and no one in attendance will mind if you need to refer to the printed copy of the speech.
As we recommend earlier, make sure that you have a copy of the eulogy printed in a large easy-to-read font. It is understandable that you may be nervous. It is difficult to speak in front of large groups of people, especially in an emotional and sad situation like a funeral. Remember that the eulogy is to honor the memory of your loved one. The audience will appreciate the kind words being said about their friend or family member and will not be concerned with how well you deliver the speech. Speak slowly and glance at the printed version of the speech as needed. Do not worry about reading it word for word and if you get nervous, or lose your spot, simply pause and take a deep breath then continue.
Now that you have learned how to write a eulogy for a friend you should read the following sample eulogy for a friend. The sample eulogy will show you how a eulogy is written and will provide you with additional help writing your eulogy for your friend.
Sample Eulogy For A Friend
I am honored to speak to you today about my best friend Jill. She and I have been friends since high school, which was close to 50 years ago! A friendship like ours is rare and I am incredibly grateful to have a best friend like Jill. She is the most caring and thoughtful person I know and I appreciate her, and her friendship, more than words can say.
I will never forget when Jill and I met in high school. It was grade ten and I joined the high school band. I had some musical experience, but had never played in public before and thought that joining the band would be a good challenge. Jill had been on the band since grade 8 and was an incredibly talented musician. We both played the saxophone, but I was intimidated by her because of her musical abilities. However, Jill was the sweetest person and made me feel at home. She spent a lot of time after school helping me learn the music and we became best friends. From grade 10 until graduation we were inseparable and she was always there for whatever I needed.
After high school she and I decided to attend the same university and were fortunate enough to be placed in the same dorm room. Our friendship grew even stronger through university. Jill was brilliant and not only was she a talented musician, but also an incredible student. I struggled with the transition from high school to university and Jill was always there to offer support. We had many late night study sessions and I don’t think I could have made it through university without her help.
Jill’s best traits were her thoughtfulness and love of life. She was never negative and looked for the positive in every situation. She loved to laugh and had the biggest smile you have ever seen. Whenever I was feeling sad she knew how to make me laugh and could cheer me up in an instant. One of the best things about being friends with Jill is that she made everyone around her better. He positive attitude was uplifting and you couldn’t help but feel good when you were in her presence.
It is impossible to put into words the importance of Jill’s friendship and how much she meant to me. She positively influenced my life in countless ways and I wouldn’t be there person I am today if we had not met. I will miss her every day of my life and will always cherish the friendship we had. Jill’s memory will live on in all of our hearts for as long as we live. God bless you. Love Allison.
Updated: June 15, 2012