Writing and presenting a eulogy for a loved one can be a painful experience and the eulogy writing tips and tricks below will hopefully help make the process easier.
Trying to choose the right words to say out of the numerous fond memories you have is not easy. How do you summarize a wonderful existence in a short speech? What information should you include and what should be omitted? How should you organize the speech? These are just a few questions on eulogy writing that will be answered below.
After writing the eulogy you will have to present it to an audience of friends and family at the funeral. Giving a speech even at the best of times is difficult for many people. Speaking about someone you love in front of friends and relatives is emotional and one of the most difficult speeches you will have to give. We have also included a few tips below that will help you present the eulogy.
Eulogy Writing Tips And Tricks
The most difficult part of writing the eulogy will be thinking of all of the fond memories you had with the person. Before you begin writing, sit down and spend some time thinking about your loved one and what they meant to you. Now, spend a few hours (or more) writing down all of your thoughts on paper. Looking at old photos may help you remember important memories.
Talk To Others
Don’t be afraid to call family members or friends of the deceased and ask for help. They will be able to give you more information about the deceased including facts about their childhood, family, education, career and more.
Organize The Info
Read over the information you collected and organize it into chronological order. Now is a good time to remove any information that you don’t think is relevant. Your eulogy should not highlight every part of the person’s life. Do not try to write everything.
Choose A Tone
Before writing the eulogy you should decide on the tone. The eulogy can be serious and speak about facts and more serious memories. Or, the eulogy can be more conversational and lighthearted. Some of the best eulogies include funny stories, which can help alleviate the tension.
Write A Draft
Now that you have collected all of the information it is time to begin the eulogy writing. The first draft is not meant to be perfect and spelling and grammar errors are all right. Next, read over the first draft a few times and edit spelling errors and remove unnecessary information. Then you will want to write a more polished second draft. Now, wait a few hours or days then read it again. This will help you pick out any additional mistakes and write a final draft.
Read It To Others
When you have your final draft it is recommended that you read it to others. This will give you practice reading the speech in front of people. Also, the other people may notice mistakes that you overlooked.
Practice The Speech
Read the eulogy to yourself a number of times. It can help to read the eulogy aloud, which will give you more practice delivering the speech in front of people. Do not worry about memorizing the speech. You should bring the speech to the funeral and refer to it whenever needed.
Deliver The Speech
Be brave. Everyone will understand that this is a difficult situation. They will be happy to hear all of the kind words you wrote about the deceased and will not be concerned with how well the speech is delivered. If you get emotional during the speech, simply pause and catch your breath then continue.
Remember that the best eulogies are written from the heart. Do not worry about writing everything that you can think of about the person. Write your favorite memories and the attributes that made the person special to you. For more eulogy writing tips, read our other articles on writing eulogies, or read a few sample eulogies to see how a complete eulogy is written.
Updated: June 19, 2012