If someone you love has passed away, writing a eulogy can help to keep their memory alive. By reading a eulogy sample and eulogy writing guide you will have all of the tools necessary to write a memorable eulogy. Writing a eulogy is difficult because you are dealing with the emotional loss of losing a loved one combined with having to write a type speech that you have likely never written before. Combine those points with having to deliver the speech in front of a large audience, writing and giving a eulogy can be incredibly tough. Proper preparation and practice will help you write a beautiful eulogy to the one you loved.
From Son to Father
I am happy to see so many friends and family members here today to pay tribute to my father Walter. For those of you here that do not know me, my name is Michael and I am Walter’s eldest son.
My father was a very intelligent, hardworking, compassionate and soft-spoken man. A lot of people who first met him thought of him as being shy and serious. However, as you got to know him better you knew that was not the case. My father loved to laugh and was carefree. He may have been soft spoken, but he loved to tell stories of his childhood, latest fishing trip or a funny joke he heard. My dad could brighten up any room with his smile and kind-heart.
All of my father’s friends and family loved his caring and compassionate attitude towards family, friends and life. I always looked up to my father, even from an early age, and tried to live my life with the same love and respect for people as he had. My father was a great dad and would often spend time at night playing sports with us in the back yard. Even as we got older and moved from home, my brothers and I loved to go home to visit my parents and hear my dad’s stories over a few beers.
My dad loved the outdoors and his number one passion in life after his family and friends was fishing. My dad loved fishing in the ocean, rivers or lakes. It didn’t matter what method he used to catch the fish, or what he caught, my dad just enjoyed spending time outdoors. My brother and I enjoyed spending time on the boat with my dad or hiking through the woods to his favorite lake. My dad also had a lot of close friends, many of whom shared his same passion for the outdoors. My dad always taught us to respect nature and gave me the same passion for fishing, hiking and camping.
No matter what situation he was in my father always had a positive attitude. He was a role model to those around him. He would always say that a positive attitude was one of the most important things in life. No matter how bad the situation seemed at the time, there was always something to be positive about. My father also taught us how important love and respect were. I will miss my dad dearly and always remember the values and wisdom that he taught my brothers and me. I will never forget my father and will make sure that his memory lives on forever in my heart and my children’s.
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Eulogy Writing Guide
After you have read the eulogy sample you need to begin by collecting the information for the eulogy. The most emotional, but important part of writing the eulogy is to write down your memories with the deceased. You can brainstorm these ideas, or look through old photos, whatever will help you remember memories with your loved one. Next, speak to friends and relatives to gather more information about the deceased. You should collect information on their childhood, education, career, marriage, family, interests, and so on.
After collecting the information for the eulogy you need to organize it into sections. Eulogies are typically written in chronological order, but if you choose not to do this, make sure that the order you choose makes sense. You could organize the eulogy into sections such as: personal memories, the deceased’s life and interest, what you learned from the deceased and how you will remember them. While organizing the data, now is a good time to expand on certain information and remove other information that is not relevant.
After organizing the material it is time to write your speech. Do not stress about making it perfect the first time. The first draft can be very rough; simply focus on turning the data you collected into sentences and paragraphs. After you have written the first draft you should read through it a few times and edit all of the spelling and grammar errors. Next, write a second and third draft (or however many are necessary). When the final draft is ready, we recommend that you read it to a friend to get their opinion. They will be able to give you valuable advice and may recommend a few final changes.
Now that you have written multiple drafts you should have a final copy. Read the speech to yourself multiple times. We recommend you read the speech out loud, which will give you better practice for reading the speech at the funeral. You may also want to ask a friend if you could read the speech to them. Reading the speech into a tape recorder and playing it back will also help you practice and polish the speech.
Reading the speech in front of friends and family at the funeral may be intimidating. But you should remember everyone at the funeral is there to pay his or her respects to the departed person. They will be happy that you are speaking about their loved one and will not care if you make mistakes reading the speech. It can help to have a copy of the speech printed in large font that you can refer to when needed. Make sure to speak slowly and pause frequently when giving the speech. If you get emotional, or lose your spot, simply pause and take a deep breath then continue.
A memorable eulogy can be easy to write if you read the eulogy sample and follow the eulogy writing advice above. For more eulogy writing tips, read our other articles on writing eulogies, or read a few eulogy sample articles to see how a complete eulogy is written.